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    Identifying victims of violent crime as “prostitutes” has a distancing effect: it makes “normal” women feel safe. This good girl/bad girl binary interacts with the normal man/client binary to create “extraordinary” circumstances within which this violence can occur. Arguably, when “good” women are murdered by men, this creates a threat to all women and a woman’s place/space of work or how outside of normalised sexual activities she steps is no longer relevant […]

    The term “prostitute” does not simply mean a person who sells her or his sexual labour (although rarely used to describe men in sex work), but brings with it layers of “knowledge” about her worth, drug status, childhood, integrity, personal hygiene and sexual health. When the media refers to a woman as a prostitute, or when such a story remains on the news cycle for only a day, it is not done in isolation, but in the context of this complex history.

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    Because lying to your kids about sex helps nobody. Telling them that sex is “only between mommies and daddies” is a lie that leads to confused, hormone charged teenagers. Telling them that sex is “only something that happens when two people love each other very much” is a lie that causes hormone charged teenagers to confuse “love” with “lust,” or “obsession.” It leads to leaps of logic like, “If I have sex with them, we must be in love.” Or worse- “If I love them, I have to have sex with them.” And how many teenage tragedies are based on that misconception?
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found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom


    found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom

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    "Consensual sex" is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as "non consensual sex", which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say "breathing swimming" and "non breathing swimming", you say swimming and drowning.

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    Another problem with the sex positive movement is the idea that questioning the ethics of a fetish is always “kink shaming”. I think that whatever two adults do consensually is fine, but I also think that it’s important to critically examine why so many people fantasize about rape or have really racist sexual fantasies. Any sex worker can tell you that people have disturbing and fucked-up fetishes, and the idea that we shouldn’t question where those come from is ridiculous.

    From a Friend of the Site.

    We couldn’t have said it any better.

    SW14 (via spring1999)

    (Source: sexworkerproblems)

      9:05 pm, reblogged  by audikatia, [ 20,612 notes ]


    ladies, if a guy doesn’t eat pussy but still expects to get his dick sucked… laugh right in his face. leave the room in the midst of your laughter. go home while laughing. keep laughing for the rest of your life. never stop laughing.

    (Source: donniedarkos)

    tagged: [sex] [feminism]
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    Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt

    You are NOT supposed to bleed

    If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.

    This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.

    I just really want women to know this.

    Actually, yeah, it… does still hurt.

    There’s no hymen to “break”, true, since it’s not a barrier, it’s more like a surrounding membrane,  but it’s still THERE. It stretches.  You can do it with a dildo or something too, but it happens, and there’s gonna be some pressure if it’s the first time you’ve ever stretched your hymen. And if precautions aren’t taken (taking it slow, using proper amounts of lube, etc), there can be some minor tearing that causes it to bleed.

    Also how about you lay off the fucking dude hate thing? Fun fact, males attend the same health classes girls do. There’s not a secret meeting where the men are round up and taught this neat trick about not needing to pleasure their partner enough. If there’s misinformation, it’s doled out equally to both genders, by both genders.

    Sorry to say, but, uh, you’re wrong, and to add to it, you made half the population out to be villains. Cheers.

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i will never not reblog this


    i will never not reblog this

    (Source: donedirt)

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