Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
Actually, yeah, it… does still hurt.
There’s no hymen to “break”, true, since it’s not a barrier, it’s more like a surrounding membrane, but it’s still THERE. It stretches. You can do it with a dildo or something too, but it happens, and there’s gonna be some pressure if it’s the first time you’ve ever stretched your hymen. And if precautions aren’t taken (taking it slow, using proper amounts of lube, etc), there can be some minor tearing that causes it to bleed.
Also how about you lay off the fucking dude hate thing? Fun fact, males attend the same health classes girls do. There’s not a secret meeting where the men are round up and taught this neat trick about not needing to pleasure their partner enough. If there’s misinformation, it’s doled out equally to both genders, by both genders.
Sorry to say, but, uh, you’re wrong, and to add to it, you made half the population out to be villains. Cheers.
If you’ve ever had a condom break, it’s probably because it was stored incorrectly, expired, or put on wrong.
P.S. STORES CAN SELL YOU EXPIRED CONDOMS! Check the expiration date!
So where should you store condoms? In a cool, dry place where it’s not likely to get punctured or mangled. Keep that wrapper safe and intact.
*It’s okay to keep a condom in your purse for the night as long as there’s nothing in there that might puncture it. Just don’t store it there long term.
-Chelsea at Planned Parenthood
Emergency contraception is very important for survivors of sexual assault. Especially if that survivor has the capability to become pregnant.
I wasn’t on birth control when I was raped because I wasn’t sexually active. I freaked out and needed to get EC but Planned Parenthood was closed and I wound up having to tell one of my friends what happened to me so she would give me hers (she wasn’t holding it hostage, but that shit was expensive and hard to get for teenagers).
Sometimes people are worried that EC can cause an abortion and while what a rape victim does with an unintended pregnancy is their own business, it should comfort some to know that EC can prevent the pregnancy altogether. You don’t have to be faced with the decision or potential moral dilemma that some face. EC will not cause an abortion and so it is safe for survivors who are pro life.
Take care of yourselves.
I love Oh Joy Sex Toy!!
repeat after me:
- virginity is a social construct
- you don’t lose your virginity
- there’s nothing valuable or precious about virginity, it’s an imaginary concept
- virginity is inherently heterocentric
- your worth is not defined by whether or not you’ve had a dick inside you
- what you define as sex is up to you, you get to decide how many people you’ve had sex with
- the end
- is heteronormative
- excludes males
- disrespects rape survivors
- objectifies females
- reduces women to how men perceive them sexually
- erases female sexuality
- reinforces oppressive ideals of femininity and masculinity
- in itself, doesn’t even make sense
- reduce sex to male penetration
- weaponize penetration as a depreciation against women