Identifying victims of violent crime as “prostitutes” has a distancing effect: it makes “normal” women feel safe. This good girl/bad girl binary interacts with the normal man/client binary to create “extraordinary” circumstances within which this violence can occur. Arguably, when “good” women are murdered by men, this creates a threat to all women and a woman’s place/space of work or how outside of normalised sexual activities she steps is no longer relevant […]
The term “prostitute” does not simply mean a person who sells her or his sexual labour (although rarely used to describe men in sex work), but brings with it layers of “knowledge” about her worth, drug status, childhood, integrity, personal hygiene and sexual health. When the media refers to a woman as a prostitute, or when such a story remains on the news cycle for only a day, it is not done in isolation, but in the context of this complex history.
found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom
"Consensual sex" is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as "non consensual sex", which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say "breathing swimming" and "non breathing swimming", you say swimming and drowning.
- how to put a condom on
- where to get free birth control
- the hymen debunked
- cleaning your vibrators
- how to avoid pressures
- signs you may be pregnant
- safe guide to anal sex
- all about dental dams
- disabled sexual resources
- what is hiv?
- feminist porn
- female ejaculation
- fisting 101
- communication during sex
- setting sexual boundaries
- bdsm vs abuse
- lube during sex
- the clitoris
- sex education games
- understanding gender
- what to do if your nudes were leaked
- sexual consent
- all about masturbation
- choosing a sex toy
- tips for your first time
Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
Actually, yeah, it… does still hurt.
There’s no hymen to “break”, true, since it’s not a barrier, it’s more like a surrounding membrane, but it’s still THERE. It stretches. You can do it with a dildo or something too, but it happens, and there’s gonna be some pressure if it’s the first time you’ve ever stretched your hymen. And if precautions aren’t taken (taking it slow, using proper amounts of lube, etc), there can be some minor tearing that causes it to bleed.
Also how about you lay off the fucking dude hate thing? Fun fact, males attend the same health classes girls do. There’s not a secret meeting where the men are round up and taught this neat trick about not needing to pleasure their partner enough. If there’s misinformation, it’s doled out equally to both genders, by both genders.
Sorry to say, but, uh, you’re wrong, and to add to it, you made half the population out to be villains. Cheers.